Saying “NO”

Saying "NO" 1

Since we are born we are told “no” quite a few times. We are too little to understand that when parents say “no” due to different reasons, most of the times is for our own benefit and safety. When we are young we have a limited perspective regarding what’s good and healthy for us and what’s not. Our parents/carers take the responsibility to teach us that and show us that our choices have consequences. It’s like crossing the street: if you don’t look right or left, you might get hit by a car. But if you make the conscious choice of looking right or left, you might protect your life and even save it.

People with depression use language differently – here’s how to spot it

People with depression use language differently – here’s how to spot it 2

From the way you move and sleep, to how you interact with people around you, depression changes just about everything. It is even noticeable in the way you speak and express yourself in writing. Sometimes this “language of depression” can have a powerful effect on others. Just consider the impact of the poetry and song lyrics of Sylvia Plath and Kurt Cobain, who both killed themselves after suffering from depression.

Basic human challenges

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We are different as individuals even though we may struggle with the same issues. Different people find different issues to be more difficult than others. Two people may struggle with the same emotional challenge and defend against it in entirely opposite ways. For all of us, the defense mechanisms we use will shape our personalities and profoundly affect our interpersonal relationships.

The Journey Called Life

The Journey Called Life 5

What a great journey it is! I discover with each client a new world, a hidden universe marked with pain and love, suffering and joy. Each individual has his/her unique journey. Though there are similarities, no journey is the same. Why? Because we are…

Who needs therapy?

Sebastian Bosca Counselling and Psychotherapy London

This is a question I’ve been asked so many times and there are variations of it that people use to check if they should go for therapy or not: “Do we all need therapy?”, “Do you think therapy will help and change my situation?”, “How long will it take for me to be better?” When […]


Trauma 6

Trauma is the result of stressful events that causes people to lose their sense of security, making them feel helpless and lost, not able to function properly, as they used to before the traumatic event took place. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but a situation doesn’t need to involve physical harm […]

False Certainty

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It’s interesting how we develop this false certainty in life that we are immune to things such as diseases, accidents, dying… and the list could go on. If I asked people they would say, of course we are not immune — but still most of us live under that false certainty umbrella, some of us even […]


Denial 11

We all use denial as a defence mechanism and on a short term it does work. It helps us postpone different emotions, even try to bury them. It gives us a false impression that we don’t have to attend to what is going on, we can just put it aside and hopefully it will go […]

Ready for therapy?

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Have you ever thought that you have to be ready to go into therapy? It’s a big step and it’s also a process which takes time and effort to open up and sort things out. As easy as it may sound, it is not. Imagine you’ve done the same things over and over again. Now, […]