Who needs therapy?

Sebastian Bosca Counselling and Psychotherapy London

This is a question I’ve been asked so many times and there are variations of it that people use to check if they should go for therapy or not: “Do we all need therapy?”, “Do you think therapy will help and change my situation?”, “How long will it take for me to be better?” When […]

Different

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Being different hasn’t been valued as much as it is in today’s culture. In most of modern/western cultures being different is actually a good attribute of displaying your persona and catching people’s eyes. No matter how this different looks like, the more intriguing and extravagant, the more it catches your attention. The concern which may […]

Trauma recovery

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Trauma disrupts the body’s natural equilibrium. The person that suffered a traumatic event gets stuck in a state of hyper-arousal and fear. Mainly, their nervous system gets stuck. What most professionals suggest is exercise and movement because these 2 actually help with the release of endorphin as well as ‘burning off’ adrenaline which can help […]

Trauma

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Trauma is the result of stressful events that causes people to lose their sense of security, making them feel helpless and lost, not able to function properly, as they used to before the traumatic event took place. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but a situation doesn’t need to involve physical harm […]

False Certainty

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It’s interesting how we develop this false certainty in life that we are immune to things such as diseases, accidents, dying… and the list could go on. If I asked people they would say, of course we are not immune — but still most of us live under that false certainty umbrella, some of us even […]

Denial

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We all use denial as a defence mechanism and on a short term it does work. It helps us postpone different emotions, even try to bury them. It gives us a false impression that we don’t have to attend to what is going on, we can just put it aside and hopefully it will go […]

Stress and Anxiety

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Stress is a big topic these days, and one way or another we all feel stressed and anxious on many different levels. Stress and anxiety are interlinked, an it’s not uncommon to feel anxious when you make an important decision or when you’re faced with a problem at work, when you have a test at school or when something out of the ordinary happens and you become nervous.

There is change in the waiting

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There really is change in the waiting, no matter what the waiting is about. You might be waiting to heal after a breakup or you might be waiting to get another job after being made redundant or failing at your last interview. You might be waiting to move on and close that part of your […]

Restructuring Our Inner World

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I am reflecting today upon the great influence our families have on us and on our development. We become a part of a system and the first thing we do is observe how things are done. We are not able to make any decisions in the beginning because we’re being taken care of, but we do get […]

Vulnerability in the room

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In the therapy room being vulnerable is one of the key aspects of the work between the therapist and the client. Too often clients come in with a surface issue because they’re either unsure of what is troubling them or they want to “test the waters”, meaning they want to see if the therapist would […]